Finding Inner Peace When Your Scattered Life Needs a Center

Blog by the Unhurried Living Team

Inner peace rarely begins with a tidier calendar. It begins with a clearer center. When the many parts of your life are gathered around one God instead of a dozen competing priorities, the peace of Christ has room to settle in.

Most of us don't notice the scattering as it happens. Our attention drifts one way while our responsibilities pull another, and our minds race ahead into tomorrow or circle back into yesterday. Before long we are living around many centers and wondering why inner peace feels so far away.

In this episode of the Unhurried Living Podcast, Alan Fadling, co-founder and president of Unhurried Living, draws on several voices. He turns to pastor and author Eugene Peterson, Benedictine sister Joan Chittister, and the medieval Franciscan theologian Bonaventure, along with the apostle Paul's letter to the Ephesians. Together they trace a movement from fragmentation toward presence and from restlessness toward peace, and the invitation is simple, though not easy: you don't have to hold your life together on your own, because God is already gathering it into one.

Why Does Spiritual Formation Begin with a Deeper Center, Not Better Organization?

Alan admits he can simplify his calendar, silence his notifications, and clear the clutter from his workspace and still be a scattered person. Those efforts may help, but mostly they rearrange the pieces, and inner peace needs something deeper. Spiritual formation asks a more searching question: what if the many parts of a life could be gathered into one life in God?

Eugene Peterson explores this in Practice Resurrection, his book of reflections on Ephesians. He notices how often Paul repeats one small word in Ephesians 4:4-6.

"There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all."

Peterson hears that repetition less as a doctrinal lecture and more as a gentle pastoral reassurance. He calls it "a life of basic simplicity," and he is careful to say this simplicity is profound and hard-earned, not shallow. The repeated "one" echoes Israel's great confession in Deuteronomy 6:4.

"Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one."

Alan names his own competing centers honestly. There is work he wants to accomplish, people he wants to serve well, things he hopes for and things he fears, and expectations no one placed on him but himself. Danish philosopher Søren Kierkegaard described purity of heart as willing one thing, and Jesus gently reminded Martha of Bethany that only one thing was needed.

In spiritual formation, then, simplicity is less about fewer things on the counter and more about fewer centers; just one, really. Today, take five quiet minutes to name the centers your life has been orbiting this week. Offer each one to God by name, and let this small act of spiritual formation be a first step toward being gathered.

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What Does Unhurried Living Look Like When You Practice Being Where You Are?

A gathered life sounds beautiful as an idea, but Alan wonders what it looks like in a busy fall season. Joan Chittister offers a practical answer in her book The Monastic Way, where she describes the Benedictine practice of statio. Statio means becoming fully present where we are and with whom we are.

Alan sums up the practice in four simple words.

Be where you are.

It sounds obvious, yet Alan admits he often struggles with it. He can sit with someone while planning his next task, pray while rehearsing the day ahead, or eat a meal while watching a video on his phone. His body is in the room, but his attention is somewhere else.

Sometimes the past pulls us away instead of the future. Alan wants to remember with gratitude and learn from experience, and where the past has wounded him, he wants to forgive and find freedom rather than let yesterday keep determining today. Unhurried living is not passivity. It is attention returned to the person, the work, and the grace right in front of us.

What makes this so freeing is simple: if God is here, we can be here too. We don't need to finish three more things before we can meet with God. Unhurried living lets this place, this person, and this task become the place where we receive our life with God.

Choose one ordinary moment today, such as a meal, a conversation, or a short task, and practice unhurried living by giving it your whole attention. When your mind wanders, gently return with Alan's four words. No scolding is needed; simply come back.

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How Does Being Present with God Turn Restlessness into the Peace of Christ?

Alan keeps coming back to a story from Bonaventure's biography of Francis of Assisi. A celebrated songwriter, whom an emperor had honored with the title "King of Verse," met Francis and his small community and eventually left his former life to join them. Bonaventure describes this man as converted from the restlessness of the world to the peace of Christ, and Francis gave him a new name: Brother Pacificus, or Brother Peaceful.

We usually describe conversion as moving from unbelief to faith or from darkness to light, and rightly so. Alan wonders whether part of our ongoing conversion is also this movement from restlessness toward peace. He explores the same hope in his book A Non-Anxious Life, picturing people whose shalom becomes a quiet witness to a restless world.

The world makes plenty of promises about where to find inner peace. Achieve enough, acquire enough, or earn enough approval, and then maybe you can finally rest. Alan calls these promises identity treadmills: we keep moving but never quite arrive, and the peace of Christ invites us to step off.

Alan says he is more of a Brother Pacificus today than he was ten years ago. He credits the Spirit's patient work for that change, not his own effort. That is the gift of being present with God: peace is received more than achieved.

Paul's words at the close of Ephesians 2 deepen this picture (Ephesians 2:21-22).

"In him the whole building is joined together and rises to become a holy temple in the Lord. And in him you too are being built together to become a dwelling in which God lives by his Spirit."

Formation, Alan says, is not our project of building a better self. It is our participation in something God is already doing among us. We respond and make ourselves available, but God is the one who builds.

Today, notice one treadmill you've been running on, perhaps a need for approval or one more accomplishment. Spend two quiet minutes simply being present with God, and pray, "I receive your peace here." Let that be enough for now.

What Does Moving from a Scattered Life to a Centered Life in God Involve?

Alan closes the episode with four short phrases that sum up the whole movement.

1. One God

The Invitation: Because there is one God at the center of all reality, your life doesn't need to orbit a dozen competing centers.

A Simple Practice: Name what has been pulling at you, and offer each concern to God.

2. Be Where You Are

The Invitation: The Benedictine practice of statio calls you back to this place, this person, and this task.

A Simple Practice: When your attention drifts toward tomorrow or yesterday, gently return to the moment in front of you.

3. Become a Person of Peace

The Invitation: Like Brother Pacificus, you can be converted over time from the restlessness of the world to the peace of Christ.

A Simple Practice: Notice one identity treadmill, and step off it for a single day.

4. Become Together a Dwelling for God

The Invitation: God is joining people together into a home for his Spirit, so this peace is never meant for you alone.

A Simple Practice: Give someone in your community a moment of unhurried attention this week.

Held together, these four movements describe one life gathered around one center.

Finding Inner Peace Wherever You Are

If your heart feels pulled in many directions and the peace you long for seems just out of reach, you are not alone in that ache. Unhurried Living is a fully digital ministry, so there is room for you here, whether you are listening from a quiet office before a long week, from a kitchen table late at night, or from any of the more than 145 nations where this podcast is heard. Across every time zone and season of leadership, you are invited to slow down, receive the peace of Christ, and be gathered into one life with God.

One Gracious Work of God Gathering Our Scattered Lives

Alan brings everything together in four phrases: one God, be where you are, become a person of peace, and become together a dwelling for God. Perhaps these are not four separate ideas but four glimpses of one gracious work. God is gathering our scattered lives into his life of peace, and inner peace grows as we let ourselves be gathered.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Q: How to be more present when life feels busy?
A: Start small by choosing one ordinary moment, such as a meal or a conversation, and giving it your full attention. When your mind drifts to the next task or back to the past, gently come back without judging yourself. Alan Fadling sums up the Benedictine practice of statio in four words: be where you are.

Q: How do I stop feeling scattered and pulled in every direction?
A: Better organization may help, but Alan suggests that a less scattered life begins with a deeper, clearer center. Naming the competing priorities you've been orbiting and offering each one to God can loosen their grip. Over time, the many parts of your life can be gathered into one life in God.

Q: How can I find peace instead of restlessness?
A: Our culture promises rest after enough achievement, possessions, or approval, but those promises work like treadmills that never arrive. The peace of Christ is received rather than earned, and it grows through the Spirit's patient work. Simple practices of attention and prayer help us become more receptive to that gift.

Q: What is the Benedictine practice of statio?
A: Statio is a monastic practice of pausing to become fully present where you are and with whom you are. Joan Chittister describes it in her book The Monastic Way. It invites us to attend to the person, the work, and the grace in front of us right now.

Q: Is spiritual formation something I do or something God does?
A: In Ephesians 2, Paul describes God joining people together into a dwelling for his Spirit, which shows that God is the one who builds. We are not passive, though; we respond, make ourselves available, and practice ways of living that keep us open to the Spirit. Spiritual formation is our participation in the work God is already doing.